![]() I explained why I didn’t feel as connected to her. Recently, after a period of distancing myself from an old friend, I was honest about my behavior. I don’t know this guy and I can’t speak for him saying it “didn’t mean anything,” but I can speak for myself. Now, this guy isn’t being outwardly cruel to you, but I would put this behavior under the weird things the internet has allowed people to do (all of us included). They say things that are truly cruel and mean because they can remain more anonymous. People comment and message horrific things they’d likely never say in person. It’s important to take a step back from dating on this one and remind ourselves of something the internet has done – it’s allowed people to be a whole lot less kind to one another. I ASKED A GUY ABOUT THIS AND HE SAID IT DOESN’T MEAN ANYTHING BUT I JUST DON’T GET IT. WHY DO GUYS WHO GHOST/SAY THEY’RE NOT INTERESTED STILL WATCH MY INSTAGRAM STORIES. ![]() And starting with “Hi! How was your day?” is perfectly fine, too. Let it flow from there and remind yourself that you are ok, that you are whole, and you are deeply deserving of love. If you’re unsure of what to say on a first date, work with that! Saying something like “Aaah I have to admit these first dates always throw me a bit! It’s kind of weird to just start talking to a stranger.” When you open up, you give the person you’re with permission to do the same (in any context). But the problem with all these scripts and what-to-text-back tips is that they both make us feel as if we’re doing something wrong by simply saying or doing what we feel, and they take us out of ourselves and the actual moment. Meeting someone new that you’re potentially attracted to can be hard and scary. ![]() “What makes you feel you need to be told what to ask or what to say on a first date? What makes you think you could say the wrong thing?” And then they usually want to rip my head off! And I get it, I totally get it. What neighborhood do you live in? Where did you grow up? What do you do for work?īut instead, I ask them the following in return: When clients pose questions like this, they’re generally looking for me to give them a script of exact questions to ask. Let’s dive in: WHAT SHOULD YOU ASK ABOUT ON A FIRST DATE? Also, I plan to cover all this content via my newsletter and Instagram in the coming weeks and months, so be sure to follow along over there if you’re interested. I couldn’t get to all of them but I tried to select the ones which covered the most ground. I find regardless of who I talk to or work with, the same questions always come up. It’s fascinating being on the receiving end and I really commend your vulnerability. I can’t tell you how much I LOVED diving into your questions.
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